Do you prefer being single or in a Relationship?

[LadyJirachu]

A bit of both, as my current partner is kinda in a place where she isn’t sure how to approach the relationship, but both of us are trying to calmly figure out things best we can more and more over time👍

so she may have staying power, or not. But I won’t let it get to me at this point cos it’s nice to just enjoy what life throws overall *shrug*

If things don’t work, I promised I would stay single for a long time, pretty much, though.

[Bryn]

Sometimes I want somebody by my side (if fate can allow it), or that I just prefer my own company. I don't even know...

[Pyrite]

So, now that I have experience of being in a proper committed relationship (8 months and counting!), I can say that I am a lot happier with my girlfriend, but that I'm also pleased that she came into my life at a time when I was content with being single and with how life was going in general. I'm not sad that it took until I was 27 to meet her, but I'm happy and excited for the future (all being well) with her in it!

I think there's a lot to be said for not wanting to rush into a relationship with someone who turns out to be the wrong person, just because that person happens to be around. I've been guilty of trying to make things work with people in the past who just weren't right for me, but when the timing is right and the person is right, it just sort of works.

[Kyng]

So, now that I have experience of being in a proper committed relationship (8 months and counting!), I can say that I am a lot happier with my girlfriend, but that I'm also pleased that she came into my life at a time when I was content with being single and with how life was going in general. I'm not sad that it took until I was 27 to meet her, but I'm happy and excited for the future (all being well) with her in it!

I think there's a lot to be said for not wanting to rush into a relationship with someone who turns out to be the wrong person, just because that person happens to be around. I've been guilty of trying to make things work with people in the past who just weren't right for me, but when the timing is right and the person is right, it just sort of works.

I'm glad it's all working out for you !

But yes, I was the same way with Opal Fruit. There was a time (in my early 20s) when I was constantly getting myself down with the thought that I would never be able to find a partner. Although, during my late 20s, I focused on other areas of my life, and realised I could be content being single. And I think that mental shift made me into a better and happier person - which I think I needed before I could get into a relationship! After all, in order for a relationship to be healthy, the people involved do both need to be complete individuals, and not just one being an extension of the other .

[Cory]

I've grown increasingly content with being single since I got a new job about a year and a half ago. I think my current job is the one I enjoy the most and it gives me a sense of public exposure that I need to keep myself from being lonely all of the time. I was depressed at a couple of my past jobs and I was looking for happiness in the wrong places. Having hobbies you attend to daily, a happy workplace, a loving family, and a mindset that sometimes the best company is yourself can help you cope with being single.

Relationships can feel like more work than being single, and if one thing goes wrong it can break you or the relationship. I know you can find the "right" person and be happy, content, and fulfilled, but I don't have the energy to put myself out there. Being a man lives up to society's expectations where you are the one who initiates and I'm not much of an initiator. All the women I've confronted I was probably seen as a creep or desperate since I was kind of both when I've asked out women in the past.

As I see it, relationships aren't for everyone and I feel like one of those people.

[MegaphoneStallone]

LOL this is one of the threads I deleted my posts in (yeah, I did a bit of that, sorry.)

For the update; I've been married 13 years, I don't remember what being single is like haha. So in a relationship, of course.

[Sarah]

After how bad my second ex-boyfriend was (being a dick to my friends and being manipulative) I was ready to give up finding a boyfriend and worried about the same thing happening again. Fast forward 3 years and around a year ago I met this guy who I worked up the courage to ask on a date and we shortly afterwards became a couple. I'm happier than ever now.

[LadyJirachu]

I like being in a relationship, since I am (sorta) in one for the time being and me and the other woman I am with seem to be devoted to each other and at the very least capable of being good friends (and she is hot).💖 I don’t ultimately wanna be single….although chances are my crush on her would last a long while even if she were to friendzone me. I really just don’t notice men anymore cos of her xD;;; heh…

Since me and her do take it slow and don’t interact outside of my program at the moment though I am trying to prioritize my friends and hobbies more again for the time being. And like mainly just enjoy her cuteness when I am around her in person over obsessing isn’t healthy anyways.

[Shiny Star]

The talking stage can be pretty fun and exciting before you get to know each other. There's less pressure and you can build up that trust with one another, honestly enjoy it!

[slooroo]

I've never dated. I've only ever been single. I'm not against dating but I'm just someone who has never interested anyone. That said this reminds me of a small story. My uncle was recently-ish divorced from his wife of decades (The relationship was negative. Neither was a saint. He took the divorce hard regardless) and he was I think partly talking to himself and partly talking to me when he said "I'm just not like you. I have to have a woman in my life." I didn't answer him directly to avoid a conflict but I've told many people since this story that my thought in my head was "I'd rather be alone than be in a bad relationship." and I stand by that statement now. Perhaps I'll meet someone someday. Perhaps I won't. In either case being single is better than being with someone who will only negatively impact your life.