So, I feel like I'm in a bit of a pickle and need to use this thread to relieve some steam concerning relationships. I'm beginning to think relationships are a big waste of time. Granted, I've never been in one, but just from trying, I wasted so much time and energy that the rejection only lead to a downward spiral of depression. It seems like I've just been the guy girls laugh in the face at more than trying to understand and confide in. I know I'm gifted in the sense that I have loving parents that are so loving they'll let their kids live at their house rent-free and not shove them out the door just because they reached a certain age and a lot of people don't have that and feel the need to be in a relationship to feel wanted/loved. But, I digress, I still feel like relationships are a big waste of time. You do what, pursue like 20 women just to have that 1 go out with you, and even then it's probably not going to work out in the end. I always put into perspective that what if we were immortal, I'd think cheating would be at an all-time high if that were so because I really don't see two human beings being in a relationship for eternity. They could become bored with one another, fall out of love, find better partners, etc.
You have to first make an effort to put yourself out there to do what? Be spat on by a majority of the opposite sex you're attracted to? Maybe I've just asked out too many young, thus immature women. Maybe in my 30's (I'm about to be 31) or 40's I'll start seeing relationships from a different perspective. You can call me a negative Nancy all you want, but I really do think most people are pressured into relationships because it has become the norm of society to be in one when you reach a certain age. Take my stance, for example, I am nearly 31 years old and I live with my parents and have never even been in a relationship, most of society would define me as a loser. That's the peer pressure I'm talking about right there. Yes, we all want to feel loved/wanted, but I think people tend to look for happiness in the wrong way, often through seeing how others appear to be happy and following them in their footsteps.
The whole "you're X age and you've never been in a relationship" seems to wow a lot of people I tell; they act surprised when I tell them. I think this goes to show that people are followers of society, where they feel like they'll be left out if they're not like others around them, particularly those they are close to. It's sad in my opinion that people have to search for happiness when it's always lingering right beside them, being that to find ultimate happiness is to find it in yourself. I've been told multitudes of times by multitudes of people that you will never find happiness in others, you have to find it in yourself, and I am starting to understand why I've been told this for so long.
I'm sorry for the rant, like I said, I just have a lot on my chest at the moment that needs to be alleviated before I drive myself to insanity with overthinking. To stay on topic, I don't feel I'm ready for a relationship because I repeat, I believe they are a waste of time and energy. You spend more time chasing than pursuing and in the end, it's a bottomless pit of regrets and depression.