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Playing hard to get increases attractiveness? - Kyng - 06-09-2020

https://medicalxpress.com/news/2020-06-hard.html

A pair of researchers from the University of Rochester and the Israeli-based Interdisciplinary Center Herzliya have spent the last few years studying the dynamics of human sexual attraction. In a 2019 study, they found that when people feel greater certainty that a prospective romantic partner reciprocates their interest, they will put more effort into seeing that person again. Furthermore, they will even rate the possible date as more sexually attractive than they would if they were less certain about the prospective date's romantic intentions.

But in a new study published this spring in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, the team now examined the effects playing hard to get, a mating strategy that is likely to instill a certain degree of uncertainty.

The researchers discovered that making the chase harder increased a potential mate's desirability.

"Playing hard to get makes it seem as if you are more in demand—we call that having higher mate value," says Harry Reis, a professor of psychology and Dean's Professor in Arts, Sciences & Engineering at Rochester.

"People who are too easy to attract may be perceived as more desperate," says coauthor Gurit Birnbaum, a social psychologist and associate professor of psychology at the IDC Herzliya.



This makes a certain amount of sense. I'd sort of assumed playing hard to get was just a way to weed out those people who weren't really interested; however, I guess this is also a potential benefit.

(However, I won't make any comment on whether or not you should do this - because I've placed a life-long ban on myself giving relationship advice to anybody :lol: !)


RE: Playing hard to get increases attractiveness? - kikipetie - 06-09-2020

Now the article is interesting, but I myself don't agree with every study that comes out.


RE: Playing hard to get increases attractiveness? - Moonshroom - 06-09-2020

It does if you are Opal Fruit :P


RE: Playing hard to get increases attractiveness? - Kyng - 06-09-2020

(06-09-2020, 07:25 PM)Dust Bowl Wrote: It does if you are Opal Fruit :P

Is this why you keep setting her up for romantic dinners with other people :lol: ?


RE: Playing hard to get increases attractiveness? - MamaFrankie - 06-09-2020

As an asexual who is not even remotely interested in relationships, I am hard to get anyway. But if I was into relationships, I would still be seen as such as a potential mate would have to meet certain criteria. My niece told me I'd never get a man even if I wanted one as I set my standards too high.


RE: Playing hard to get increases attractiveness? - Opal Fruit - 06-16-2020

(06-09-2020, 07:25 PM)Dust Bowl Wrote: It does if you are Opal Fruit :P

Ha! Oh really? :P