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Who should pay the bill on a first date? - Kyng - 10-11-2018

Just a straight cross-post from the old board: 
https://www.tapatalk.com/groups/the_coffee_house/who-should-pay-the-bill-on-a-first-date-t10839.html#p341694

So, for this scenario, let's suppose a man and a woman are going out to a restaurant on a first date. Of course, not all first dates take place at restaurants (nor do they always feature one man and one woman) - but, that's the scenario we're considering here :P . Who do you believe should pay the bill for it? 

I'd have to go for the third option myself (whoever initiated the date). The first two options frankly don't make a lot of sense to me (even if a lot of people seem to believe the first option in particular), whereas the last two options are both great ways to not get a second date :P . 

How about you?

RE: Who should pay the bill on a first date? - Ann - 10-11-2018

I feel whoever asked for the date should pay.

RE: Who should pay the bill on a first date? - Pyrite - 10-11-2018

My option isn't listed. As the man, I would always offer to pay for everything, but if she wanted to pay for her own food, or to split the bill evenly, I would have no issues with that.

RE: Who should pay the bill on a first date? - Detective Osprey - 10-11-2018

I'd prefer the man, but I guess I'll vote for whoever started the date.

RE: Who should pay the bill on a first date? - Kyng - 10-11-2018

Personally, I think that comes under 'The man' :P . 

I mean, my opinion with regards to "whoever initiated the date" is similar. I think that whoever initiated the date should at least offer to pay for everything; however, if their partner wanted to pay, I think that would be fine.

RE: Who should pay the bill on a first date? - Pyrite - 10-11-2018

Gotcha! That makes sense. I think, personally, I'd always offer to pay, but that's just me. On a case by case basis, it kinda does make sense for the initiator to offer to pay. After all, it's their fault the date is happening, isn't it? :P

RE: Who should pay the bill on a first date? - Jarkko - 10-11-2018

It does make the most sense if the initiator pays, but yeah, I'd probably offer to as well.

RE: Who should pay the bill on a first date? - Eremurus - 10-11-2018

Chivalry is dead because third wave feminism and manufactured outrage killed it.

So, split the bill evenly, unless it's a treat, of course, in which case I'd pay.

RE: Who should pay the bill on a first date? - Nilla - 10-11-2018

I think they should split the bill evenly and that is what I would suggest in the first place. Unless of course my dude wanted to pay, then he can feel free to do so.

RE: Who should pay the bill on a first date? - MegaphoneStallone - 10-12-2018

I always insist in paying.
I paid when I was getting to know ladies with marriage in mind (back in the single days.) I pay when going out with friends.

With some friends it's a competition.
I've been known to pretend to need to use the toilet and grab the bill on my way there to sneak payment before others can. Then we go to leave, everyone's bickering over who gets to pay and I'm just like 'lol I did it already suckazzzzzz'